December 26th, 2014 issue 42 "loneliness is a basic condition. Please add Sina Weibo to follow: @ _ miss absentee reprint, please indicate it in the title and inside page."
"I have always believed that loneliness is the basic condition for people to live. Although life is inevitably associated with others, it is impossible for lovers or family members to fully fit with themselves and regard them as one. People's thoughts determine their actions and the way they live, and thinking can't be done with anyone. "
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loneliness is a basic condition
author: Matsuura Mitaro
if it is a party of more than three people, I will try not to attend as much as possible.
all activities such as parties are declined, and they are also declined to avoid when they receive invitations to drink and dinner. In other words, I am a "very unscrupulous person".
my body is allergic to alcohol, and I want to follow the principle of going to bed early and getting up early, so I mostly enjoy a peaceful dinner with my family in the evening. I read and think alone, and then go to sleep peacefully. There are no special activities.
but the main reason why I am not sociable is that I am not good at socializing in the first place, and it is a headache for me to meet a group of people. Moreover, I have always believed that loneliness is the basic condition for people to live.
although life is inevitably associated with others, it is impossible for lovers or family members to fully fit with themselves and regard them as one. People's thoughts determine their actions and the way they live, and thinking can't be done with anyone.
the processes that form the essence of life, such as feeling, thinking, thinking, choosing, and deciding, can only be done independently. We must face this fact bravely.
so I accept loneliness as a basic condition.
I don't meet people or party with friends to hide my loneliness. On the contrary, I think alone, study alone, and expect to move forward as far as possible in the direction of my goal.
of course, although I am used to being alone, loneliness is not always my partner. I am also often captured by loneliness, fear, uneasiness and other fears.
especially work, it is a war against loneliness. Without the consciousness of using one person against a hundred people and confronting the world, it would be impossible to complete the ideal work.
sometimes, even if you are criticized and opposed by the public alone, you must resist it without retreat. I hope to take into account everyone's emotions, listen to everyone's opinions, and make a good plan in a warm discussion. In reality, this is impossible.
so I will not be trapped in the mood of "I am so unfortunate that I must work hard alone" like the tragic hero. Instead, we realize that we are born alone and turn to think about how to live with loneliness.
this attitude applies not only to work, but also to all situations in life.
"what do you think of loneliness and loneliness?"
this is a problem that can affect life to a large extent.
secondly, I often ask myself, "can I still be alone?"
living abroad alone when I was young, let me know how harsh the process of confronting loneliness is, and get extremely important growth and exercise from it. Even up to now, I still keep telling myself to "keep the strength and courage to be alone."
sometimes, I even cut off all ties with others, even if I was excluded as a "weirdo" by my friends, even if I was criticized as "that guy is so unclassy and hard to make an appointment." Incredibly, after doing so, there is an opportunity for real communication between the two sides. Because unspeakable things are usually never mentioned at the banquet, I have the opportunity to have a positive conversation.
isn't it lonelier to live on a superficial relationship than to be alone?
want to be close to others because of loneliness, which is dependent and dependent on each other's heart. Such a relationship cannot breed trust, love and friendship. What's more, ganging up in groups is not in line with the habits of human life.
maybe you have the same idea: it's best to travel with someone, hoping to live in a "comfort zone" surrounded by familiar companions.
but why not pluck up the courage and resolutely let go of an one-person trip?
"if you always worry about these things and get into the bad habit of saying" casual ", try your best to correct it." if you are always worried about these things and get into the bad habit of saying "casual", you will definitely annoy the other person and think that I am very annoying.
accept loneliness and implement your opinions and positions.
be strong without fear of friction and waves.
such an attitude can protect a stable life for us. Only by having the power to walk decisively in the dark can we build a deep connection with others who pass by.