Apart from fun, what else can ritual give us?

Apart from fun, what else can ritual give us?

Why do we need a sense of ritual in life?


since filter correction is provided in the mobile photo app, we have a ceremonial "important itinerary" in our daily life-taking pictures before meals. Unlike the strong religious "pre-meal prayer" in the West, taking pictures before meals always shows off with a little bit of flattery, recording life, and unintentionally showing off, which also makes it disgusted by some people. In my circle of friends, there is also a good photographer before dinner, but her works often get likes.

she is a handicraftsman, and she first met her because of a report in a magazine. Later, when I came into contact with her slowly, I also knew that she originally had the "boy's skill" of art and painting, and after leaving society, she also had work experience in publishing magazines. Later, she ended Beijing drifters's life and returned to Shenyang to open her own studio. Design and make leather products for shoes and bags.

I have been friends of Wechat for three or five years. In her circle of friends, I have received a large number of pre-meal photo ceremonies, and I have gradually accepted one of her life aesthetics. Almost all the food photos she shows are done by herself, and her simple plate, matching composition and suitable color always make her feel that life is particularly exquisite and interesting. At the first sight of all this, I will feel that it is too complicated. If it is not supported by freelance status, it is not well taken care of.

but in the past three or five years, I saw her decorate her house into her own "little castle", watched her travel in a long dress of national style, and looked at the rich "Xu Zhe Pei" style of the words she recorded. I know that she has her own logic of life, and those ritualistic daily life are not at all surprising. This reminds me that many people will feel "very immortal" when they first see Sister Chi Ling, but they can't stand "forever" and "from the inside to the outside", so they will also feel that it is also a beautiful thing to have such a woman in the world.


I don't drink tea, but I still take advantage of all kinds of opportunities to learn about his trivial things about making tea. For example, trekking mountains and rivers to the mountains and forests of Fujian to find a century-old tea tree, such as the old master who visited again and again to sincerely move the pot, and so on, but what made me feel that the industry had a sense of ritual was in a certain late autumn. he wrote in his moments that he prayed for "eighteen suns."

in the autumn of that year, the old osmanthus tree in a friend's house in the circle blossomed like beautiful flowers, and when he got cinnamon, he could enter the tea, so he needed continuous sunshine to maintain the quality. But the autumn in the south of the Yangtze River is already cloudy and rainy, and the "eighteen suns" is not so easy to get. Looking at him asking for sunshine one day, I felt that this had something to do with worshiping God and praying for favorable weather.

I originally thought that with today's food processing technology, if you want to meet a certain drying standard, there must be a more convenient way, but when you think about it, it's not just a "craftsman" like him who has such a style. in fact, there are many examples of such a sense of ritual in our culture.

had it not been for the introduction of medicine in traditional Chinese medicine, there would not have been a scene of "stealing immortal grass" in the Legend of the White Snake, and Mr. Lu did not have a chance to write "human blood steamed bread".


because of my work, one year I interviewed six local gourmet masters according to my arrangement. That interview task requires each master to write an independent article, but in the end, a small project should be integrated. After the interview, when I was writing a special note, I found that the story of one of the masters was very special. As a matter of fact, he was also born as a kitchen master, but now he is well-known in the local field of calligraphy and painting.

when I recalled the interview that day, I already felt this kind of atmosphere when I entered his office. In particular, it is not like the state of a chain catering enterprise, but more like a cultural studio or calligraphy and painting studio. At a working lunch with him, he mentioned a concept of their catering chain. At first, I thought it was "not eating from time to time", and not eating something that was not in season. He explained to me that it was "not eating from time to time", not something that was not in season.

at first I didn't understand the difference, but then he talked about the concept of food one after another. He said that delicious food is often not only the food itself, but also the interweaving of atmosphere, time, temperature and emotion, which can be externalized in many aspects, such as store decoration, serving rhythm, heat control and so on. As for emotion, he said that most of the food that everyone misses most is the taste they ate when they were young.

in his eyes, having a meal is no longer as simple as wrapping his stomach, so I understand why he has to explain to me that not eating things that are not in season is to put people in the position of subjective initiative, while "not eating from time to time" emphasizes that people should conform to nature. Only by changing the word order, man's humility and insignificance in front of nature will immediately appear.


for those of us who have no faith, the most typical sense of ritual in life is probably weddings and funerals.

since I had a daughter, I often felt that the soft part of my heart was touched when the father walked across the long stage with his daughter arm in the eye of the public, and then solemnly handed his daughter's hand to the bridegroom. In theory, such a ceremony should be a Western-style style, but now it is more and more accepted by Chinese people, and everyone seems to be expressing their strong feelings of enduring incompetence and humanism through such an external form.

I lived in Lixiahe area of northern Jiangsu in my childhood, and I had the experience of attending rural funerals when I was a child. For a long time, I do not understand why there are performances of "singing small dramas" at funerals. In addition to the local operas with sad contents, they are only left to Cheng at night.People's "dirty jokes". At first, I thought this was just the custom of one place. Later, when I read the Taiwanese writer Liu Zijie's "the Seven days after the Father" and saw that there was also a performance of "electronic floats" in Taiwan's funeral culture, I felt that we might have something in common in the face of death.

the ceremonial custom allows us to find dependence in the face of life changes, so that we will not be out of order. we will follow the established process of the custom slowly, and no matter how complicated things will be slowly sorted out. No matter how much pain will be released and slowly smoothed out before dealing with trivial matters. The burden of life is big enough that we can only face the cruelty of death in a more playful way. The dead have gone, but the living have to face tomorrow.

I have been wondering why we need a sense of ritual in life, which may help us go beyond this mundane life, find the fun that supports us, and eventually become the interesting person in the eyes of others. It may also be that in the course of evolution, we have explored the laws of nature, solidified into an established pattern in the form of experience summary, avoided recklessness in life, and we can find the most direct solution as long as we follow it.

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